I have underlined and checked beside the 'things' that applied to my Mother, as a Victim and to my brother who was her Caregiver.
Psychological / Emotional Abuse is much harder for outsiders to detect. Immediate family, and close friends, who know the victim are able to detect this type of manipulation very easily. Unfortunately, the DHS, or Sheriffs Office were 'clueless' and would NOT listen to family. As you will see, in the individual Posts, there were MANY times, that Atty. Swanson was writing letters, to the Trust Atty, Eich. The DHS did NOT want to believe what the Grandaugher was telling, regarding how the family was NOT like this, before my Dad (her Grandad) passed away. I have many documents in which the Grandaughter had contacted the State DHS, Gerry Paine and Sandy Koll, Dependent Adult Abuse Director, Deanna Clingan-Fisher, Dept. of Elder Affairs, Charlotte Nelson, Dept. of Human Rights, Cindy Jones, a Caseworker Coordinator in Office of Governor, and Maureen Lee, in the Ombudsman's Office.
At the time, that my sister and I went into the Local DHS, we were told by Kari Shelton that Elder Abuse was only physical abuse. This tells you how 'un-informed' the Local DHS was, at that time. They were not able to do an investigation correctly, by the rules, which were posted online.
As you can see, six (6) out of the seven (7) "Characteristics of Typical Victims", fit my Mother.
In the "Characteristics of Typical Abusers", three on this list, pertain to my brother. He, definitely, did NOT know how to care for either one of our parents. Even when I had Home Health come to help with Dad, my brother was not going to let them in the house, and rejected any suggestions, for caring for my Dad. I would bring food, 3 times a week and took my parents laundry home to wash, for them. My brother depended on my parents for a place to live. He was married a short time, but came back to their house to live.
quite Great article!
Posted by: contact | 01/20/2014 at 10:21 AM